The Unspoken

June is the time of beginnings and ends. Some people marry and others may graduate. A favorite part of both is the wisdom passed on by officiates or guest speakers.

The New York Times recently published selected excerpts of graduation addresses. Tim Cook, CEO of Apple, paraphrased Dr King’s letter from the Birmingham jail, “our society needed to repent not merely for the hateful words of the bad people, but for the appalling silence of the good people.” Cook went on to say, “The sidelines are not where you want to live your life.”

These are words that punched my heart, encouraged me to be stronger in my thoughts and to choose action.   I chose to act, but even so, I am constrained by my cultural limits including limited tolerance towards differing points of view.

July begins with a bang, celebrating our independence and the heroes and the hard won fight two centuries ago. But now, the celebration is synonymous with picnics, discount sales, barbecue, pool parties. It is wonderful that these activities typically include family. And as such it helps to build our society and family. But I wish we would take our Fourth of July celebration to the next level and continue the tradition of fighting to preserve our independence.

Our society and freedom will only remain healthy and strong so long as every registered voter exercises her privilege. In order to do so meaningfully, all voters need to become educated in a fair and equal manner, understanding all sides of an issue.

Who will be the leader to fight across party lines and create a tradition of voter education each Fourth of July?  Imagine a holiday where we pack our picnics to go to a park or to gather with our communications devices and hear arguments on key issues, presented by apolitical persons? I imagine the picnics to follow would include healthy discussions among friends and family.

This idea has a long tail, meaning it will take a few years for the effect to take hold, but will have long lasting effects on our culture. Perhaps even making our political system be less petty and more intellectual and tolerant.

Along with promoting the value of education, the Fourth of July would be synonymous with voter involvement. In this way not only will we be honoring the heroes who fought for us in the revolution, but we will end the “appalling silence of the good people.” Imagine a holiday designed to get everyone of every persuasion off the sidelines and into a healthy discussion and meaningful expression of their views. I cannot imagine a stronger society as we become Fearlessly Confident. 

Move Over Hamilton

                                                 Photo courtesy of americanblog.com

                                                 Photo courtesy of americanblog.com

Recently the U.S. Treasury Secretary Jack Lew announced that the 2020 redesigned $10 bill will no longer be Alexander Hamilton, but a woman. Who you might ask? That decision has yet to be made, but surprisingly this is not the first woman ever to be featured on U.S. currency. That honor belongs to Martha Washington. Her visage was emblazoned on the $1 silver certificate from 1891 to 1896. According to the United States Mint, women have had slightly better representation on coins. Helen Keller, Sacagawea and Susan B. Anthony have all appeared on various circulating coins. 

The purpose is to celebrate the 100th anniversary of Amendment 19, which gave women the right to vote and a major first stepping stone to gender equality. Perhaps not as surprisingly, the Secretary is reaching out to the public to help make this important decision, just add #TheNew10 at the end of your tweet and cast your vote. The guidelines are simple, it must be someone who represents American democracy and legally, must be someone no longer living. 

Our votes go to Susan B. Anthony, Eleanor Roosevelt, or Rosa Parks. Weigh in with us on twitter using #Camillas10 and we’ll repost your tweet to our live feed! 

 

Closet Drama

It happened again this morning. I woke up and remembered today is the day of the photo session for a national newspaper piece. No, I didn't lose that extra 20 pounds overnight, but I still need to look competent, confident and still be comfortable. 

Trying to keep a normal routine, I did my back exercises, checked email quickly, and showered. A huge thank you to David, my husband, for bringing that first cup of coffee to me. Then, time stopped. 

I thought of so many outfits that I could wear, but I wanted to feel good and that only meant our new maxi dress. I took it to the studio and measured about 10" from the hem and cut off the bottom. My maxi is now a midi and I won't be tripping over it going up and down the stairs today.

Then, I needed to solve every woman's dilemma, how to cover my arms. I wore our swan coat yesterday, so today I chose our black wrap. The cap/short sleeves cover exactly the right places and the asymmetric hem ads some interest. 

Black tennis shoes with a white sole, my signature silver necklace and Apple Watch complete the look. I feel great knowing that i designed each piece, but I wish I could claim credit for the Apple Watch. 

Looking back on my moment in the closet, I recognize a few things. Every morning, I have the same gasp as I walk into the closet. That feeling subsides when I limit my choices to pieces within our label, because I know everything will go together. Already, this summer I have a uniform that consists of Maxi+an over piece+cool shoes.

Closet drama is a pervasive issue and I wonder if there is a medical diagnosis code for it. My prescription for this one is to find your own uniform. Surprisingly, many celebrities, even fashion icons, have uniforms.

Celebrity stylist Rachel Zoe, often wears a black maxi dress. Cover model Kate Moss, is often seen wearing black tall boots, black jeans, and a black jacket. Actress Dianne Keaton, wouldn't be recognizable without a hat, pants, and long jacket. Titanic's Kate Winslet, is frequently spotted in jeans or pants, and a classic jacket. Taylor Swift, has her formula down with a two piece dress, scoop and or wide neck and pleats at her waist. Anna Wintour, queen of fashion, loves a skirt suit with rounded shoulders, usually in tweed, with a no collar jacket.

If we can all find our own uniform, then life will be much easier. We will begin to suffer a little less from closet drama. 

Love and Kindness

Nearly one year ago on June 12, Emily Esfahani Smith wrote a piece for The Atlantic showing that lasting relationships are dependent on kindness and generosity. Similarly, there are many reasons why relationships fail, but most likely it is a breakdown of kindness.

While the article focused on married couples, I'd like to think the principle applies to family in a broader sense, as well as our to society and politics. 

Read the article on The Atlantic's website linked below.

Masters of Love

Science says lasting relationships come down to—you guessed it—kindness and generosity.

Thanks Carol for posting The Atlantic article on Facebook. 

“For most of history, Anonymous was a woman."

The power of women throughout the ages has waxed and waned, but one thing seems rather constant: most of their stories were never told. Virginia Woolf may have been one of the first to speak up about this theme and her powerfully simple prose inspired generations of women to speak up and demand to be heard. 

This blog is dedicated to women speaking out and their stories. We are a platform for artists, musicians, film makers, legislators, mothers, sisters, daughters, activists, volunteers, and the men who join us to celebrate fearless women.