One of the biggest cover grabbing stories about women in recent history has been body image and how girl’s and women’s self-confidence is at an all time low. Fat shaming and models gracing the shiny fashion ads all said relatively the same thing: love the skin you’re in and screw the rest. This is hard to do when it is constantly being talked about and when the media doesn’t do anything to support the so-called rally of body acceptance, if anything it seems to be getting worse.
Ms. Magazine’s blog posted a collection of instances where girls have been getting turned away from attending prom because of judgements of style. For example, Alexis Miller-Wigfall had her dress custom made for prom and looked absolutely fabulous, but was faced with suspension after attending prom because she, “had more boobs than the other girls” according to the assistant principal. In another example, fifteen year-old Gabi Finalyson, was turned away because her dress was deemed too revealing, because it revealed her shoulders. These comments exemplify the problem with these “dress codes" as blatant body shaming.
We wonder how young women navigate their lives to develop a sense of self with the adoration of models in perfect form, sexualization of music, and pressure to be perfect in every way. The internet has forever erased the mystery of the nude form; ankles and shoulders no longer titillate.
Gabi bravely spoke out against her treatment by saying, “Somehow my shoulder’s are sexualized. Like it’s my responsibility to make sure the boys’ thoughts are not unclean.” Well said, Gabi and you are completely right. It has always been put on women to control their sexuality, when in reality we have never had complete control. It takes fearlessness to find yourself. The world would be a better place with individuals instead of clones.